Church Disrupted 055: Narcissism Expert Shares How to Recognize & Respond to Spiritual Narcissists
Oct 22, 2024
Chelsea Brooke Cole, a bestselling author and expert on narcissism, joins the discussion to unpack the complexities of narcissistic behavior in church settings. They explore the weaponization of forgiveness, stressing the importance of boundaries. Cole explains the DARVO technique—deny, attack, reverse victim and offender—highlighting its role in manipulative interactions. The conversation encourages listeners to recognize spiritual narcissism and provides strategies for healing and maintaining emotional well-being in toxic relationships.
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Forgiveness Weaponized By Narcissists
- Forgiveness is often weaponized by narcissists as permission to continue abuse.
- They feel relieved of consequences once forgiven without true remorse or accountability.
Understanding DARVO Tactic
- DARVO is a tactic where narcissists Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender roles.
- This makes victims feel guilty and invalidated, complicating confrontation and healing.
Narcissists' Facade in Churches
- Narcissists often switch appearances to church leaders, showing repentance only to protect reputation.
- Churches sometimes mistake abuse for miscommunication, failing to assess power imbalances.
