Negotiate Anything How to Stop Pretending and Start Being Yourself — Dr. Julia Garcia
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Nov 20, 2025 Dr. Julia Garcia, a writer and speaker focused on emotional habits, shares her powerful journey of self-discovery after a personal collapse. She discusses the dangers of pretending and perfectionism, and how these can distort our identity. Julia introduces her concept of 'maybe,' a small shift that can lead to profound changes. They explore the role of hope, distinguishing it from mere happiness, and how tiny emotional habits can transform lives. Through practical strategies, she guides listeners to accept themselves and reconnect with their authentic identities.
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The 'Maybe' That Changed Everything
- Dr. Julia Garcia describes fleeing a violent dispute at night and a friend's simple line that changed her thinking: "you could be anything you want to be."
- That single word "maybe" began to break her negative thought loops and opened possibility for change.
Comfort In Familiar Chaos
- Chaos can become comforting through repeated exposure, making unhealthy patterns feel like a 'comfy blanket.'
- That familiarity masks the need to heal and can create craving for the very dysfunction that harms us.
Worthlessness Shapes Identity
- A pervasive sense of worthlessness becomes a self-reinforcing identity that drives self-destructive choices.
- People won't invest in healing the parts of themselves they believe are unworthy, deepening the cycle.
