Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled Calming Our Reactivity to Children's Irritating, Demanding Behaviors
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Aug 25, 2020 Addressing a parent's struggle with constant demands for attention from their children, offering strategies to respond without amplifying the behaviors. Exploring the significance of self-compassion for parents, challenging perfect parenting and discussing how self-judgment contributes to anger and frustration. Sharing experiences in observing and engaging with young children, emphasizing the importance of recognizing them as individuals and staying calm amidst disruptions. Discussing the importance of finding a balance in parenting, attuning to children's needs while maintaining one's own separateness, and providing practical tips for buffering oneself.
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Start With Self-Compassion
- Practice self-compassion instead of harsh self-judgment about parenting missteps.
- Accept imperfection and reduce harmful pressure that fuels reactivity and exhaustion.
Whining Is Developmentally Normal
- Children's repetitive whining and calls are typical and often universal across cultures and languages.
- Those sounds are unpleasant but are developmentally normal and can become cyclical with parental reactivity.
Over-Attunement Creates A Cycle
- Over-attunement lets children's repetitive demands penetrate and escalate parental feelings.
- That joined reactivity forms a cycle where child and parent feed each other's irritation.