Explore the power of vulnerability as an asset, discuss the importance of vulnerability in building authentic connections, and delve into the concept of tactical vulnerability for building trust through personal stories.
Embracing vulnerability can foster authenticity and build trust in relationships.
Leaders can use vulnerability strategically to connect with their team members and create a supportive environment.
Vulnerability should be approached responsibly, distinguishing between authentic vulnerability and performative vulnerability.
Deep dives
The Power of Vulnerability in Building Authentic Connection
Vulnerability is often associated with discomfort and negative emotions. However, by embracing vulnerability, we can create authentic connections with others. By sharing our vulnerabilities, we foster authenticity and build trust with those around us. It allows for open and honest communication, leading to deeper relationships. However, it is important to approach vulnerability tactically, recognizing that not every situation or relationship calls for complete openness. By being mindful of the context and the individuals involved, vulnerability can be a powerful tool for building connection and intimacy.
Tactical Vulnerability in Leadership
Vulnerability can be particularly impactful in leadership roles. By demonstrating vulnerability, leaders can break down the power dynamics and connect with their team members on a human level. When leaders authentically share their own vulnerabilities, it creates psychological safety and trust within the team. This fosters a supportive environment where team members feel comfortable showing their true selves and taking risks. However, it's important for leaders to be intentional about using vulnerability tactically, recognizing when and how to share vulnerabilities to facilitate growth and connection.
Differentiating Vulnerability from Trauma Dumping and Performative Vulnerability
It is essential to understand that vulnerability should not be equated with oversharing personal details or being emotionally burdensome to others. True vulnerability is about genuine connection and emotional openness in a supportive environment. It is not about seeking sympathy or pity, but rather about sharing experiences and emotions in a way that is helpful and relatable to others. Vulnerability should be approached with responsibility, respecting the boundaries and consent of others involved. It is vital to distinguish between authentic vulnerability and performative vulnerability, where personal stories are shared merely for attention or validation rather than meaningful connection.
Difference Between Performative and Tactical Vulnerability
Performative vulnerability refers to pretending to be vulnerable without actually being vulnerable. It includes misrepresenting vulnerability for ulterior motives or trying to elicit vulnerability from others without reciprocating. On the other hand, tactical vulnerability involves genuine openness and honesty for the purpose of building rapport and creating psychological safety. It allows for real connections and enables individuals to fully express themselves. The misuse of performative vulnerability can break trust and lead to toxic environments, while embracing tactical vulnerability can foster collaboration and deeper understanding.
The Importance of Authentic Vulnerability in Leadership
Authentic vulnerability in leadership can have positive effects on teams. When leaders embrace vulnerability, it creates a sense of relief and safety among team members. It allows for open discussions about challenges and creates space for authentic connection. In contrast, performative vulnerability in leaders often leads to a race to the bottom, erodes trust, and fosters a toxic work culture. Authentic vulnerability promotes integrated and connected teams, leading to better collaboration and progress. It is crucial for leaders to create environments where team members feel safe to be authentically vulnerable, leading to greater co-creativity and success.
So frequently when we think of vulnerability, we think of weakness. So... what's the point of vulnerability? Why be vulnerable? What is the power of vulnerability and how can we employ it as an asset over a liability? What's the difference between tactical, performative, and authentic vulnerability?
Join executive leadership & career coach Rikki Goldenberg, conscious leadership & executive coach Justin Mulvaney, and licensed clinical psychologist turned creator coach Corey Wilks as we discuss all that and more.
0:00 Cold Open 0:53 Show Intro 3:32 Teeing up Vulnerability 4:51 How can vulnerability be helpful? 19:15 The role of Responsibility in Vulnerability 28:05 Performative/Baited vs Authentic Vulnerability 42:35 Tactical Vulnerability 59:47 Vulnerability for Professional Women 1:02:55 Questions & Exercises to embrace Vulnerability 1:08:28 Wrapup
Learn more about the hosts: https://www.rikkigoldenberg.com/ https://justinmulvaney.com/ https://coreywilkspsyd.com/
Intro Music: http://www.aaronwaltersmusic.com/
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