Amanda Montell, a linguistics major and author of The Age of Magical Overthinking, discusses how consumerism complicates our problem-solving. She shares personal anecdotes about adding distractions instead of simplifying issues, like opting for more vacations instead of reassessing relationships. The conversation also touches on cult behavior, revealing how everyday dynamics mimic cult-like influences in relationships and society. Montell emphasizes simplicity, collaboration over competition among women, and the impact of societal expectations on mental well-being.
Individuals often complicate problem-solving by adding variables instead of recognizing the power of simplifying or removing elements from their lives.
Cultish behavior exists in various forms across society, challenging the definition of community versus harmful influence and inviting deeper self-reflection on affiliations.
Deep dives
The Complexity of Problem-Solving
When confronted with problems in relationships, individuals often resort to adding variables instead of simplifying situations. For instance, one might think that going on vacation or acquiring a pet could resolve underlying issues, rather than reevaluating or eliminating something from their life. Amanda Montel highlights a study where participants preferred to complicate a puzzle by adding pieces instead of solving it more simply by removing one. This tendency to add rather than subtract illustrates a common inclination to take a convoluted approach to problem-solving, hindering effective resolution.
The Spectrum of Cultish Behavior
Cultish behavior exists along a spectrum, encompassing not only traditional cults but also organized religions, multi-level marketing schemes, and even popular fitness groups. The subjective nature of what defines a 'cult' makes it challenging to label certain groups; for instance, while some see organized religion as extremist, others might view social fitness communities like SoulCycle as cult-like. Montel discusses the criteria used to identify these groups, noting how the line between harmful influence and innocent community can sometimes be blurry, leading to a complex understanding of belonging and group dynamics. This exploration invites listeners to recognize the nuances in their own affiliations and the communal aspects of human nature.
Cognitive Biases and Personal Experiences
Montel's exploration of cognitive biases reveals how they shape our daily decisions and relationships, particularly in the context of personal experiences. Through her reflections on a past difficult relationship, known metaphorically as 'Mr. Backpack', she illustrates how biases like the sunk cost fallacy can trap individuals in unfulfilling situations. She also connects these concepts to broader societal behaviors, highlighting how errors in judgment and misattributions affect both personal and collective understanding. By shedding light on these psychological mechanisms, Montel encourages deeper self-awareness and compassion towards others who find themselves in similar predicaments.
The Impact of Social Media on Celebrity Worship
The evolution of celebrity culture, amplified by social media, has significantly shifted how society perceives and interacts with public figures. Montel emphasizes that as trust in traditional authority figures declines, celebrities have increasingly become the objects of veneration, resulting in a paradox of higher expectations coupled with greater disappointment. The intimacy of social media creates a false sense of connection, as fans project their desires onto celebrities, which can lead to unhealthy comparisons and unrealistic expectations. This dynamic reveals not only the nature of modern fame but also the psychological implications of parasocial relationships in an age where personal identity and celebrity status frequently intersect.
Amanda Montell is the author of the New York Times bestseller The Age of Magical Overthinking: Notes on Modern Irrationality, as well as Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism andWordslut. Amanda is a linguistics major from NYU and all of her work centers around the way that words—and thoughts—shape our minds, and how our minds are permeable to other factors, whether it’s the halo effect, confirmation bias, or Cult-like sensibilities. Amanda is also the host of a podcast, “Sounds like a Cult.” Okay, let’s get to our conversation.