Theology in the Raw Freedom from Unwanted Sexual Behavior: Jay Stringer
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Jan 12, 2026 
Jay Stringer, a licensed mental health counselor and author, delves into the complexities of unwanted sexual behavior and trauma. He discusses how personal histories shape sexual patterns and explains the connection between childhood needs and adult desires. Gender differences in porn use and the impact of shame are explored, alongside strategies for leaving abusive relationships. Jay also emphasizes the importance of integrating desires into communal life, while touching on infidelity predictors and the dynamics of authenticity in marriage.
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Desires Mirror Life Stories
- Unwanted sexual behaviors are predictable from personal history and specific search patterns.
- Jay Stringer shows research linking childhood stories to later porn preferences and affairs.
Generational War With Desire
- Desire patterns can carry across generations via epigenetic and family threat narratives.
- Stringer links inherited threat responses to lifelong civil wars with desire and joy.
Four Needs Shape Desire
- Children need to be seen, safe, soothed, and secure to form healthy desire.
- Lack of attunement and co-regulation redirects legitimate longings into maladaptive behaviors.
