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Contempt Undermines Love And Civic Life
- Contempt is the conviction of another person's utter worthlessness and corrodes relationships and society.
- Arthur Brooks and John Gottman identify contempt as a core driver of political polarization and relational breakdown.
From Relationship Failures To Research
- John Gottman recounts starting research as a relationship novice moving from disaster to disaster.
- He and a friend turned that personal failure into decades of scientific study and successful practice.
Make Your Partner's Distress Central
- Prioritize listening when your partner is upset; make their distress the focus rather than dismissing it.
- Treating an upset partner as worthy of attention strengthens connection and prevents withdrawal.