Life Kit Why it's so hard to accept compliments
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Jul 15, 2025 
In this insightful discussion, Andy Tegel, a dedicated reporter at Life Kit, teams up with Xuan Zhao, a behavioral scientist from Stanford and CEO of Flourish Science. They dive into why many people feel uneasy accepting compliments, exploring societal pressures and gender expectations. The conversation highlights the science behind the emotional benefits of giving and receiving praise. They also emphasize the importance of sincerity and specificity in compliments, showcasing how these interactions can boost self-esteem and strengthen relationships.
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Cousin's Natural Compliment Acceptance
- Marielle's cousin accepted a compliment confidently and simply by agreeing she liked her hair color too.
- This shows compliment acceptance can be natural and doesn't have to be awkward or self-conscious.
Dance Class Compliment Dilemma
- Andy Tegel receives a dance class compliment but reacts with nervous denial.
- Alec Cohen encourages saying thank you to accept praise and avoid uncomfortable back-and-forths.
Compliments Never Get Old
- Recipients stay happy receiving compliments, even repetitive ones, contrary to the giver's expectations.
- Compliments fulfill an ongoing social and emotional need similar to daily necessities.