The Terri Cole Show 579 Self-Love Deficit Disorder + More with Ross Rosenberg
Jan 25, 2024
Expert in pathological narcissism, Ross Rosenberg, discusses codependency, the dynamic between narcissists and codependents, detaching from narcissists using his technique 'observe, don't absorb', love bombing, and the potential for narcissists to change. They also explore healing trauma, building healthy relationships, and provide resources for support.
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Observe, Don't Absorb Insight
- Codependents, or Self Love Deficient (SLD), are drawn to narcissists due to a core self-love deficit and shame.
- The "observe, don't absorb" technique helps avoid emotional entanglement with narcissists' provocations.
Avoid Induced Conversations
- Recognize that conversations with narcissists are dangerous and often induced to draw you in.
- Refuse to engage in arguments or emotional fights to avoid empowering the narcissist.
Love Bombing as Control
- Love bombing is a manipulative tactic used by narcissists to lure codependents back when boundaries are set.
- It triggers emotional vulnerability by replicating early relationship idealization, but is ultimately a control strategy.