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Eroticized Woundology: Integrate the Masculine & Win the Inner/Outer Gender War w/ Kelly Brogan #510
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Quick takeaways
- Embracing disappointment can be a catalyst for self-awareness and healing.
- Surrendering control and trusting in a higher power is essential for personal growth.
- Toxic masculine behavior is actually an expression of unbridled feminine energy within men.
- Honoring sovereignty and allowing children to make their own decisions fosters personal growth and empowerment.
Deep dives
The journey of self-discovery and growth after divorce
The speaker reflects on their personal journey of self-discovery and growth after going through a divorce. They describe feeling a profound change in their perspective and being more connected to their emotions and experiences. This period of time allowed them to explore different aspects of their identity and engage in new endeavors. Additionally, they discuss the importance of taking time off from relationships to focus on oneself and the transformative power of facing one's emotions and shame.
The path to surrender and trust in God
The speaker shares their thoughts on surrender and trust in a higher power. They discuss the process of surrendering control and letting go of the need to be right or fix others. They emphasize the importance of humility and recognizing one's own flaws and capacity for both good and bad. They explore the idea of surrendering to divine will and the challenges of maintaining trust, especially during difficult times. They reflect on the paradox of fully embracing the present while also yearning for more, and the role of desire in personal growth and connection to the divine.
Moving beyond victimhood and embracing personal power
The speaker delves into the concept of victimhood and its impact on personal empowerment. They discuss the tendency to compare traumas and assign degrees of worthiness based on the severity of experiences. They emphasize the role of personal narrative and meaning-making in perpetuating victim consciousness. They delve into the importance of taking responsibility for one's own emotions and choices, and the potential for growth and transformation through embracing discomfort. They reflect on the power of embracing disappointment and utilizing it as a catalyst for self-awareness and healing.
The toxic masculinity narrative and the journey towards self-regulation
The speaker challenges the toxic masculinity narrative and offers a different perspective. They suggest that toxic masculine behavior is actually an expression of unbridled feminine energy within men. They discuss the importance of cultivating self-regulation and emotional spaciousness as a way to hold space for others and oneself. They emphasize the power of presence and stillness in facilitating emotional processing and resolution. They reflect on the role of mature masculinity in offering containment and stability to those around them, and the need for a shift in the collective perception and expectations of masculinity.
Empowering self-expression and breaking free from control-based parenting
The speaker discusses her journey of recognizing and challenging the control-based and fear-based parenting impulses that she had in relation to her daughters. She reflects on the importance of allowing her daughters to have their own experiences and sovereignty, even if it challenges her own beliefs and desires. She shares personal examples of loosening her grip on controlling their choices, such as allowing them to make decisions about their schooling and being more open about discussions on sexuality. The speaker emphasizes the importance of holding space for her daughters' individual expressions and honoring their sovereignty.
Exploring the concept of life as a purgatory
The speaker delves into the idea that life may be inherently purgatorial, with moments of challenge, suffering, and contrast. She reflects on the empowering belief that individuals choose to come to this world to evolve and learn as souls. While acknowledging the struggles and issues of the world, she emphasizes the importance of finding meaning in difficult experiences. The speaker encourages embracing the narrative of one's incarnation and finding joy in the story, even amidst devastation. She shares insights from books she's read and discusses the significance of desire and reclaiming one's power to create their own story.
Recognizing control-based parenting and surrendering to one's children's sovereignty
The speaker discusses her realization of the control-based parenting tendencies she had and the impact it had on her daughters. She shares examples of how she navigated through parenting challenges, such as allowing her daughters to make choices that she might not agree with, such as ordering non-healthy food at a restaurant or attending public school. The speaker emphasizes the importance of honoring her daughters' sovereignty and creating a space where they can have their own experiences and make their own decisions. She reflects on her own personal growth and learning as a parent and the responsibility to support her daughters in finding their own path.
The expansion of self-expression and a deeper understanding of femininity
The speaker explores her personal journey of embracing and expanding her self-expression and femininity. She discusses the importance of releasing judgments and societal expectations, as well as the shadow aspects of herself. The speaker describes transformational experiences with her daughters, relationships, and personal beliefs regarding sensuality, control, and vulnerability. She highlights the necessity of creating a safe and empowering environment for women to embrace their desires, authenticity, and full expression.
I’m excited to welcome back Dr. Kelly Brogan, MD, a four-time podcast guest and community favorite. Kelly is a holistic psychiatrist, who is on a mission to help people reclaim their sovereignty and embodiment.
She’s also founded the online healing program, Vital Mind Reset, and authored bestselling books, A Mind of Your Own, Own Your Self, and children’s book, A Time for Rain.
In today’s enlightening episode, Kelly and I discuss the polarities of the masculine and feminine, shedding victimhood, and trusting surrender. She shares her perspective on why we often eroticize wounds and fetishize disappointment and how we can transcend that mindset for good.
We also delve into the shadow of activism, the spiritual ego, and the dangerous impact of emasculating boys and young men. Kelly also shares her personal journey reconnecting with herself after divorce and her evolving experience with motherhood.
Every time Kelly joins us on the podcast, she summons so much expansion for me – and I’m sure she’ll do the same for you.
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MORE ABOUT THIS EPISODE:
(00:24) Marrying Her Polarities
(10:37) Finding Trust in Surrender
(24:20) Fetishizing Disappointment
(29:24) The Comparative Hierarchy of Trauma
(42:21) The Shadow of Activism
(54:54) Expressions of Masculinity & Femininity
(01:11:06) The Emasculation of Boys
(01:17:49) Shedding Addiction to Approval
(01:31:35) Living in Realms of Polarities
(01:42:12) Claiming Your Yes
(01:50:34) Victimless Mothering
(02:11:56) Kelly’s Latest Projects
Resources:
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Instagram: @kellybroganmd
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Website: kellybroganmd.com
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Read: A Mind of Your Own by Kelly Brogan, MD
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Read: Own Your Self by Kelly Brogan, MD
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Vital Life Project: kellybroganmd.com/vital-life-project
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Kelly's Audacious Embodiment Weekend: kellybroganmd.com/ae-online
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Kelly’s Signature Healing Program - Vital Mind Reset: kellybroganmd.com
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Join Kelly's newest small-group containers: kellybroganmd.com/the-reclaimed-woman
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