Choose Your Wife Wisely-#141

Sep 17, 2023

What if choosing your wife could shape your entire future? This discussion reveals the deep impacts of selecting a life partner, touching on emotional, physical, and financial well-being. Personal stories underscore the need for self-awareness and intention in relationships. Tune in to learn seven key ways making this choice can benefit you and those around you. It's more than just attraction—it's about forging a fulfilling future together.

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ANECDOTE

Messy Dating History

The speaker's dating history was messy, driven by a savior complex and fear of being alone.
He learned that surrendering to God's plan was crucial for finding a healthy relationship.

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ADVICE

Choose Wisely

Choose your wife wisely, as this decision has significant impacts.
It affects your emotional well-being, physical health, finances, and more.

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INSIGHT

Emotional Well-being

A harmonious marriage improves emotional well-being.
A supportive wife provides strength, while a tumultuous relationship causes stress and anxiety.

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Men, have you ever thought about the ramifications of choosing your wife outside of "I'm happy. She's hot. She puts up with me."?? In this subscriber-only episode we talk about the 7 ways that choosing our wives well can impact our lives and the lives of those around us.

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5 Reliable Sources to Learn More:

Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The seven principles for making marriage work. New York: Crown. Link
Waite, L. J., & Gallagher, M. (2000). The case for marriage: Why married people are happier, healthier, and better off financially. New York: Doubleday. Link
Chapman, G. (2015). The 5 love languages: The secret to love that lasts. Chicago: Northfield Publishing. Link
Finkel, E. J. (2017). The all-or-nothing marriage: How the best marriages work. New York: Dutton. Link
Popenoe, D., & Whitehead, B. D. (2004). The state of our unions: The social health of marriage in America. New Brunswick, NJ: National Marriage Project. Link

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