Conversations with Dr. Jennifer Motes and Beams | Self-Deception and Marital Growth
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Aug 25, 2026 
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, discusses marriage growth and intimacy. She explores why people blame partners instead of owning their part, the higher- and lower-desire dynamic, and how hiding behind roles stunts connection. Practical behavior change and authentic vulnerability are highlighted as paths to greater joy.
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Behavior Rewires Belief
- We don't think our way into a new way of acting; we behave our way into a new way of thinking.
- Jennifer says real knowing requires risky, uncomfortable action that reorganizes the mind and grows the soul.
Sexuality As A Spiritual Growth Engine
- Sexuality and spirituality can be integrated to help people experience beauty, peace, and deeper connection.
- Jennifer frames bodies as gifts that pressure moral and relational growth, especially in marriage.
Intimacy Exposes Your Lesser Parts
- Most people say they want intimacy but fear being truly known because it exposes limits and lesser parts.
- Jennifer explains intimacy demands compassion, maturity, and willingness to see your own shortcomings.
