Good Life Project The Relationship Rules Keeping You Stuck (and how to fix them) | Stephanie R. Yates-Anyabwile
Dec 4, 2025
Stephanie R. Yates-Anyabwile, a licensed marriage and family therapist and relationship educator, challenges conventional relationship norms. She discusses how practices like sleeping apart can enhance intimacy and why proactive work is essential before problems escalate. Stephanie emphasizes giving partners the benefit of the doubt and the importance of tailoring relationship rules to fit individual needs. She also offers insights on managing family expectations and nurturing both romantic and self-relationships for a fulfilling life.
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Communication Is A Symptom, Not The Root
- Communication issues are usually a surface problem hiding specific triggers and topics that are hard to discuss.
- Stephanie R. Yates-Anyabwile says zooming in on what and why we can't talk reveals the real work to do.
Pause Intentionally, Then Return
- If one partner needs space, give that person time but set a clear return time and signal what you'll do with the pause.
- Use a safe word or announce the exact minutes needed so the other partner feels held, not abandoned.
Use Breaks To Reflect And Prepare
- When you take a break, use the time to write down your thoughts so you return clearer and avoid reactive accusations.
- Tell your partner you want to reflect because the relationship matters and you don't want to speak before you're ready.