Pillow Talks E229: Ask A Sex Therapist: Swallowing, Fetishes, + Exes
Oct 9, 2025
Dive into tantalizing topics like why some guys are passionate about swallowing and what that reveals about intimacy. Explore the tricky dynamics of 'lasting too long' during sex and how to communicate desires without referencing an ex. Learn how to tackle fetishes and the importance of addressing erectile dysfunction compassionately. Plus, discover ways to make scheduling sex more natural and reclaim a healthy sex life after trauma. Expect real questions and expert advice in this revealing conversation!
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Desire For Genuine Giving
- Men (and people generally) want oral sex that feels genuinely given rather than begrudgingly performed.
- Feeling like a partner is grossed out creates body-shaming and ruins the experience.
Offer Alternatives To Swallowing
- Respect bodily autonomy: nobody must swallow and everyone chooses what to do with their body.
- Offer practical alternatives like a heads-up before coming or finishing somewhere else if swallowing isn't wanted.
Use A Drink To Clear Taste Fast
- Keep a flavored drink by the bed to quickly remove any aftertaste and reduce running to the bathroom.
- Swallowing sends the fluid away faster and avoids prolonged texture issues compared with spitting.
