The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Ep. 84: Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior

Jul 12, 2022

Delve into the intriguing connection between behavior and the nervous system. Discover how feelings of safety and connection can transform challenging behaviors in children. Learn about innovative metaphors like owls and possums to explain different behavioral states. Finally, find out how to support parents navigating the complexities of raising children after trauma with valuable resources and a compassionate approach.

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Intro

00:00 • 5min

Exploring Behavior Change Through Regulation and Connection

04:39 • 3min

Understanding Behavior Through Nervous System Pathways

07:10 • 31min

Connecting and Supporting Parents of Children with Challenging Behaviors

38:32 • 5min

Behavior is just what we see on the outside that tells us about what’s happening on the inside.

If we want to change behavior, we have to change what’s driving the behavior.

This approach to behavior change rests on the idea that regulated, connected kids who feel safe behave well. If you’re curious about how I came to that conclusion, you can watch my free masterclass and download the free eBook on Focus on the Nervous System!

How many times have you felt confused because of conflicting parenting advice?
Or how often has good parenting advice worked- but only some of the time?
That’s because parenting advice is aimed at stopping a behavior. But…

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