Speak Up: Develop Your Executive Presence & Leadership Communication Style

470: Asking for Feedback Sabotages Your Leadership and Executive Presence Potential Here's What to Do Instead

Oct 8, 2025
Hayley Blunden, an Assistant Professor at American University's Kogod School of Business, shares insights on enhancing workplace communication. She reveals that asking for 'advice' rather than 'feedback' leads to more actionable insights. They discuss the impact of colleagues' perceptions on performance evaluations and how over-soliciting advice can strain relationships. Hayley also highlights that audio communication can convey warmth and competence more effectively than video, emphasizing the importance of picking the right medium and wording in leadership interactions.
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INSIGHT

Ask For Advice Not Feedback

  • Asking for "feedback" orients people to the past and yields vague, less actionable responses.
  • Asking for "advice" shifts focus to the future and produces more specific, actionable input.
ADVICE

Acknowledge Contributors After Seeking Advice

  • When you solicit many people's advice, proactively acknowledge which elements you used or how it influenced you.
  • This preserves relationships and reduces friction when you ultimately reject some advice.
INSIGHT

Interactions Build Workplace Reputation

  • Virtual work mixes many one-off interactions that build workplace relationships over time.
  • Choosing the wrong medium repeatedly weakens those relationship signals and outcomes.
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