Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn ADHD impulsivity and saying yes to sex too fast
Nov 18, 2025
Dr. Ari Tuckman, a psychologist and ADHD expert, joins for a lively discussion on impulsivity and intimacy. They explore how ADHD influences sexual decision-making, detailing the risks of saying yes too quickly. The conversation dives into consent, emotional regulation, and how vulnerability can lead to regret. Tuckman emphasizes self-compassion and the importance of learning from experiences. Strategies for managing impulsivity and fostering curiosity in relationships are highlighted, making this a thought-provoking listen for anyone navigating love and desire.
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High-Stim Moments Amplify Impulsivity
- Impulsivity is like "leaping without looking" and sex's high stimulation makes it easier to act without pausing.
- ADHD increases the chance of getting caught up in the moment and later feeling differently about the choice.
Use Check-Ins To Create Pauses
- If you know your partner tends to leap and regret, you both carry responsibilities: they to know themselves and you to safeguard your own wellbeing.
- Ask gentle check-ins like “Are you sure?” to create small pauses that reduce impulsive choices.
Regret As Useful Data
- Regrettable sex often yields useful data about preferences and boundaries rather than moral failure.
- Treat poor encounters as learning experiences that inform future choices.