What's your attachment style and why should you care?
Oct 27, 2023
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Explore the concept of attachment styles and their impact on relationships. Learn about the push-pull dynamic and difficulty in trusting partners. Discover strategies to develop healthier attachments and never give up on oneself.
Understanding our attachment style can provide insights into our behaviors and dynamics with others.
There are four attachment styles: secure attachment, anxious preoccupied attachment, dismissive avoidant attachment, and fearful avoidant attachment, each with their own patterns of behavior and emotion.
Deep dives
Overview of Attachment Theory
Attachment theory provides a framework for understanding interpersonal relationships, focusing on the impact of childhood bonds on adult relationships. Various attachment styles, such as secure attachment, anxious preoccupied attachment, dismissive avoidant attachment, and fearful avoidant attachment, are correlated with specific patterns of behavior, emotion, and cognition.
Characteristics and Origins of Secure Attachment
Secure attachment is characterized by a positive view of oneself and others, comfort with intimacy and independence, and trust in relationships. It typically develops from consistent and reliable caregiving in childhood, which fosters trust and a sense of being loved.
Characteristics and Origins of Anxious Preoccupied Attachment
Anxious preoccupied attachment involves seeking high levels of intimacy and approval from partners, often due to inconsistent caregiving in childhood. These individuals may feel insecure, fear abandonment, exhibit clinging behavior, and constantly seek validation.
Grasping our attachment style can help us understand our behaviors and dynamics with others. Attachment styles are established when we’re very young and influence us well into our lives. Understand the 4 attachment styles to see which one you might be and how to work with its strengths and challenges.
Savvy Psychologist is hosted by Dr. Monica Johnson. A transcript is available at Simplecast.