ADHD Chatter Dating as an unmasked autistic ADHDer - Ellie Middleton
Feb 16, 2024
Ellie Middleton, an Autistic ADHDer and advocate for unmasking, shares her candid experiences with dating and identity. She discusses the challenges of relearning attraction after realizing societal norms influenced her preferences. Ellie dives into the complexities of sexual identity, the necessity of clear communication in relationships, and how unmasking impacts dating dynamics. She also reflects on dealing with rejection sensitivity and the balance between authenticity and acceptance. Her insights highlight the ongoing journey of navigating love as a neurodiverse individual.
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Unmasking Changes Who You’re Attracted To
- Unmasking revealed Ellie’s true attractions were different from her learned ‘type’.
- She realized many preferences were copied from others rather than authentic to her.
Demand Clear Communication Early
- Ask for clear communication and definitions early because ambiguity causes Ellie anxiety.
- Seek partners who can be open and explicit about feelings and relationship status.
Restarting Dating After Removing The Mask
- Ellie describes masking heavily on dates and slipping into a character to meet expectations.
- She restarted dating from zero to relearn what she wants and how much alone time she needs.