ManTalks Podcast Avoidant Gaslighting- Spot It & Stop It
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Nov 14, 2025 Discover the complexities of avoidant gaslighting and learn how it stems from survival instincts. The discussion reveals tactics used by avoidants to distort truth and retreat emotionally, creating distance in relationships. Techniques for naming and addressing these patterns are shared, emphasizing clear communication and boundaries. The importance of gauging a partner's willingness to reflect and commit to change is highlighted, providing valuable insights for fostering intimacy and accountability.
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Avoidant Gaslighting As Self-Protection
- Avoidant gaslighting usually isn't malicious; it's a survival tactic rooted in learned behavior.
- Connor Beaton explains that avoidants distort truth to protect themselves from intimacy and accountability.
Truth Distortion Near Intimacy
- Avoidants weaponize memory through forgetting, misremembering, or altering details.
- Connor says truth distortion often appears when intimacy is increasing to create distance from responsibility.
Host's Personal Confession
- Connor shares his own past use of misremembering, omission, and altering details in relationships.
- He describes how those tactics created distance and were part of his cycle in his late teens and early 20s.