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Avoidance prevents us from experiencing the best that life has to offer. It is a common behavior that robs us of meaningful experiences and keeps us stuck in our mental prisons. Through the story of Dr. Luanna's personal journey, we learn how avoidance can manifest in different areas of life, such as relationships, career, and personal growth.
The thoughts-emotions-behaviors cycle is at the core of cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). By creating a pause and reflecting on our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, we can gain insight into the patterns that contribute to avoidance. Through techniques like writing down our cycles and interrogating our thoughts, we can begin to challenge negative beliefs and change our behavioral responses.
CBT teaches us the power of approaching rather than avoiding. By questioning our thoughts, examining evidence, and reframing our perspectives, we can diminish the grip of anxiety and overcome avoidance. While it might be challenging at first, approaching the situations and emotions we usually avoid can lead to growth and transformation.
Avoidance is our instinctive response to perceived threats or discomfort, intended to bring immediate relief. However, avoidance keeps us stuck in the long term. There are three ways we avoid: retreating (moving away from discomfort), reacting (responding impulsively to discomfort), and remaining (staying stuck in situations that no longer work). Avoidance is a universal experience, and it affects various aspects of our lives, such as relationships, work, and personal growth. It is important to identify our avoidance patterns and take small steps towards embracing discomfort to overcome avoidance.
Overcoming avoidance is crucial for living a fulfilling life. It starts with challenging our fears and taking action. Engaging in discomfort gradually helps rewire our brains and teaches us that there is no real threat or danger. By gradually exposing ourselves to uncomfortable situations and tolerating the associated emotions, we can overcome avoidance and unlock our true potential. Avoidance holds us back from experiencing happiness, success, and personal growth. Embracing discomfort and taking action towards what truly matters to us leads to a more fulfilling and authentic life.
According to Harvard professor Dr. Luana Marques, there is one sneaky habit that holds every single person back – and no one knows what it is.
When she reveals the habit that holds you back, your first reaction will be to stop and think.
And as you listen to her explain it and give you examples, you’ll be shocked that you’ve never before seen it in yourself or heard anyone else point it out to you… until now.
You’re not the only one.
I didn’t know about this habit until I was introduced to Dr. Marques’ work.
What you learn today will change how you think about success, influence, mindset, and even anxiety and procrastination.
This sneaky habit has been holding you back and you didn’t even realize how pervasive it is in your life.
It’s not self-doubt. It’s not fear. It’s something even deeper.
I want you to listen, because she’s the world’s leading expert on the topic, and this is one of those episodes that will make you never look at life the same again.
Xo Mel
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