2 Ways to Stop Anxious Thoughts & 3 Steps to Love Yourself and Build More Confidence (Special Episode)

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Mar 3, 2023

Discover the transformative power of solitude and self-love! The discussion highlights strategies for embracing alone time and making it a part of everyday life. Learn how to transition from loneliness to solitude through three stages: presence, discomfort, and growth. Uncover insights into self-awareness and personal development, as well as how solitude can enhance relationships. Gain practical tips for spending time alone that fosters confidence and self-discovery. Embrace the journey of self-love to improve not only yourself but also your future connections!

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ADVICE

Solo Audit

Track your alone time for a week, excluding passive activities like TV.
Then, try a new solo activity weekly, like seeing a movie or going to a museum.

INSIGHT

Loneliness vs. Solitude

Loneliness and solitude differ in how we perceive and use our alone time.
Solitude, unlike loneliness, fosters openness, curiosity, and self-love.

ADVICE

Self-Knowledge for Love

Understand yourself, your pleasures, and values during singlehood or alone time in a relationship.
Self-awareness allows you to bring strengths and address weaknesses in relationships.

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Today, I am going to share with you another snippet from my latest book, 8 Rules of Love. This time, we will talk about solitude. My focus is on the importance of solitude in our daily lives and how it can help us love ourselves better. Rule #1 - Let Yourself Be Alone outlines a three-stage process for transitioning from loneliness to solitude, starting with being present with yourself and moving towards developing confidence in areas of personal growth. It also emphasizes the importance of self-control and patience in the process of learning solitude and understanding our complexity, and embracing the idea that being alone can be transformational.

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Key Takeaways:

00:00 Intro
02:28 Solitude: Learning to Love Yourself
02:57 Rule #1: Let Yourself Be Alone - and learn to find solitude in your daily life.
09:41 Solo Audit - Finding out how you want to spend your time alone.
17:49 The Path From Loneliness to Solitude
18:44 Stage #1: Presence - The first step to making use of solitude is being present with yourself.
23:32 Stage #2: Discomfort - There are 3 different ways to get used to being alone.
27:55 Stage #3: Confidence - The 5 growth areas of life you can recheck and see whether you need to change or not.
30:22 For change to happen, start with identifying your biggest growth area.
33:09 Here’s how to develop a growth plan using the 3 C’s of transformation.
36:18 One Mind - This is how solitude allows us to understand our complexity.
42:57 Why self control and patience are the two key skills when learning solitude?
45:46 A Whole Self - It’s not always about looking out for our better half and this is why.

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