2 Ways to Stop Anxious Thoughts & 3 Steps to Love Yourself and Build More Confidence (Special Episode)
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Mar 3, 2023
Discover the transformative power of solitude and self-love! The discussion highlights strategies for embracing alone time and making it a part of everyday life. Learn how to transition from loneliness to solitude through three stages: presence, discomfort, and growth. Uncover insights into self-awareness and personal development, as well as how solitude can enhance relationships. Gain practical tips for spending time alone that fosters confidence and self-discovery. Embrace the journey of self-love to improve not only yourself but also your future connections!
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Solo Audit
Track your alone time for a week, excluding passive activities like TV.
Then, try a new solo activity weekly, like seeing a movie or going to a museum.
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Loneliness vs. Solitude
Loneliness and solitude differ in how we perceive and use our alone time.
Solitude, unlike loneliness, fosters openness, curiosity, and self-love.
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Self-Knowledge for Love
Understand yourself, your pleasures, and values during singlehood or alone time in a relationship.
Self-awareness allows you to bring strengths and address weaknesses in relationships.
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Bhagavad Gita
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Key Takeaways:
00:00 Intro
02:28 Solitude: Learning to Love Yourself
02:57 Rule #1: Let Yourself Be Alone - and learn to find solitude in your daily life.
09:41 Solo Audit - Finding out how you want to spend your time alone.
17:49 The Path From Loneliness to Solitude
18:44 Stage #1: Presence - The first step to making use of solitude is being present with yourself.
23:32 Stage #2: Discomfort - There are 3 different ways to get used to being alone.
27:55 Stage #3: Confidence - The 5 growth areas of life you can recheck and see whether you need to change or not.
30:22 For change to happen, start with identifying your biggest growth area.
33:09 Here’s how to develop a growth plan using the 3 C’s of transformation.
36:18 One Mind - This is how solitude allows us to understand our complexity.
42:57 Why self control and patience are the two key skills when learning solitude?
45:46 A Whole Self - It’s not always about looking out for our better half and this is why.
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