

Building Real Confidence, The Motivation Puzzle, and Understanding All Your “Parts”
298 snips Jan 22, 2025
Dive into the complexities of confidence and motivation, where embracing failure is seen as the true path to self-assurance. Discover the paradox of high achievers dealing with insecurity and imposter syndrome. The discussion unravels the intricacies of intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation, challenging long-held beliefs about rewards. Plus, explore the Internal Family Systems theory, shedding light on the diverse parts of our psyche and their roles in emotional health and self-integration. A thought-provoking journey awaits!
AI Snips
Chapters
Transcript
Episode notes
The Confidence Conundrum
- True confidence isn't expecting success, but being comfortable with failure.
- Repeated failures build comfort, which others perceive as confidence, not the successes themselves.
Success and Insecurity
- Even incredibly successful people like Serena Williams can experience anxiety and self-doubt.
- Success can make failure more costly, increasing insecurity and decreasing confidence.
Affirmations for Confidence
- Avoid affirmations focused on external qualities; they inflate the cost of failure.
- Instead, affirm your ability to learn, adapt, and persevere through challenges.