10% Happier with Dan Harris Why Self-Hatred Makes No Sense | Matthew Brensilver
Feb 2, 2022
In a thought-provoking discussion, clinical social worker Matthew Brensilver dives into the concept of self-hatred versus self-love, questioning the very nature of the self as an illusion. He shares insights on viewing anger skeptically, the connection between self-love and ethical conduct, and how we can confront moral dilemmas. Matthew also discusses his own journey towards accepting mortality, promoting a compassionate approach to self-acceptance and the importance of loving-kindness meditation in overcoming negative emotions.
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Self-Love and Not-Self
- Self-love is not clinging to a fixed idea of greatness.
- It involves understanding, forgiving, and accepting limitations, moving us closer to the Buddhist concept of "not-self."
Dan Harris's Loving-Kindness Practice
- Dan Harris found that adding loving-kindness meditation to his mindfulness practice revealed a subtle aversion.
- This aversion stemmed from not fully accepting his thoughts and feelings.
Defining Love
- Matthew Brensilver views love as a softening of the heart, encompassing loving-kindness, compassion, and poignancy.
- He finds this especially crucial in challenging times, promoting tenderness and investigation.