Mastering microtransitions is key to living a happy, fulfilled, and successful life.
Balance is not about when you show up, but how you show up in different roles and spaces.
The third space concept involves reflecting, resting, and resetting to optimize transitions between tasks, roles, or places.
Deep dives
The concept of micro-transitions and their impact on living a happy and fulfilled life
Dr. Adam Frazier, a peak performance researcher, discusses the concept of micro-transitions and how they play a significant role in living a happy and fulfilled life. These micro-transitions occur when individuals shift from one task, role, or place to another. In each micro-transition, there are three spaces: the first space, the second space, and the third space. To make an ideal micro-transition, individuals need to reflect on the task or role they are leaving behind, rest and become present, and reset their mindset for the next task or role. By mastering these micro-transitions, individuals can show up as their best selves in each space, leading to a more fulfilling and successful life.
The importance of balance in personal and work lives
Dr. Adam Frazier highlights the misconception of balance being measured solely by time and suggests that balance is more about how one shows up in different roles and spaces. He emphasizes that balance is not about when an individual shows up, but rather how they show up. By shifting the focus from time to connection and being present in each role, individuals can achieve a better sense of balance in their personal and work lives.
The three phases of the third space
Dr. Adam Frazier explains the three phases of the third space: reflect, rest, and reset. In the reflect phase, individuals assess what went well, what they achieved, and how they improved. The rest phase focuses on becoming present and calming the mind through activities like breathing exercises or engaging in physical exercise. The reset phase involves determining one's intention in the upcoming space or role and considering how best to behave to achieve that intention. The third space can be mental or physical and can be adapted to various transitions, including those between work and home or even during vacations.
Applying the third space concept in various scenarios
Dr. Adam Frazier provides examples of how the third space concept can be applied in real-life scenarios. For individuals transitioning from work to home, he suggests connecting with a friend to debrief and vent, or engaging in a specific activity like walking or listening to a funny podcast. Those working from home can create a third space by establishing routines, physically separating work and personal spaces, or making mental shifts through mindfulness practices. The third space concept can also be beneficial for transitioning into and out of vacations, helping individuals better enjoy their time off while maintaining boundaries and being present in their personal lives.
Developing the skill of the third space
Dr. Adam Frazier emphasizes that practicing the third space is a skill that improves with time and effort. He encourages individuals to be proactive in managing their transitions and not to be discouraged by setbacks. While it may take time to develop proficiency, consistent practice can lead to more effective transitions and a better overall balance in personal and professional life.
Throughout each day, all of us make little shifts in our roles and responsibilities; we take off one hat and put on another. Sometimes these shifts are physical, as when we commute from home to the office. Other times, the shifts are mental, as when we finish working on an administrative task and start working on a creative one.
My guest calls these little shifts “microtransitions” and says that mastering them is a significant key in living a happy, fulfilled, and successful life. His name is Dr. Adam Fraser and he’s a peak performance researcher and the author of The Third Space. As Adam explains, in each microtransition, there are three spaces: the first space which is the task, role, or place you’re leaving behind, the second space, which is the task, role, or place you’re transitioning to, and the third space which is the in-between transition itself. To make an ideal microtransition, you break that third space into three phases, and Adam walks us through how to execute each one so you can show up as your best self in the second space. We talk about how to make microtransitions between different work roles, and spend a lot of our conversation on how to improve the microtransiton between work and home — even if you work from home — so you can arrive ready to engage with your partner or family.