The Overcomers with Matt Chandler Freedom from Performance
Nov 4, 2025
Lauren Chandler, a pastor's wife and ministry leader, shares her journey from striving for perfection to embracing God's grace. She reflects on how her upbringing as a 'good girl' shaped her identity and fueled a relentless pursuit of approval. Their conversation reveals the power of surrender during Celebrate Recovery and how acknowledging her weaknesses led to true freedom. Lauren also discusses the importance of setting boundaries in relationships and the challenges of parenting while overcoming people-pleasing tendencies, inspiring listeners to find peace in their imperfections.
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Good Girl Masked a Deeper Need
- Lauren grew up driven to be “the good girl,” equating achievement with safety and worth.
- She realized being good became a way to avoid needing God and masked deeper fear of brokenness.
The Recording That Broke Validation
- Lauren recounts a moment singing on a recording she expected to validate her, but hated how she sounded and felt empty afterward.
- That experience, plus a Beth Moore study and a Celebrate Recovery meeting, led her to surrender and begin recovery steps.
Powerlessness Opens Space For Grace
- Embracing “I am powerless” unlocked Lauren’s understanding of grace and true dependence on Jesus.
- Recovery helped her move from self-sufficiency to resting in Christ’s sufficiency.
