Financial Feminist 249. Good Girls Finish Last (How to Stop People-Pleasing and Start Living) with Elise Loehnen
Aug 25, 2025
Elise Loehnen, bestselling author of 'On Our Best Behavior', joins the discussion to tackle the pressures of societal expectations on women. They delve into how ‘good girl’ conditioning restricts personal authenticity and reshape narratives around body image, success, and finances. Elise emphasizes embracing wholeness over perfection and navigating feelings of fear and envy. They also discuss the importance of intuition in decision-making, challenging societal standards, and fostering self-acceptance, inspiring listeners to break free from oppressive norms and live authentically.
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Wholeness Frees Women To Occupy Space
- Embracing wholeness lets women occupy more cultural space and stop performing for approval.
- Elise argues that dropping performance energy would rapidly change culture and reveal more fully expressed women.
Stories Survive Because They Soothe Fear
- Patriarchal stories persist because they soothe three core fears: loss of approval, loss of control, and loss of safety.
- Elise says these stories feel protective, so we keep them even when they no longer serve us.
Titrate News And Choose Action Over Anxiety
- Titrate news intake and take concrete actions instead of staying hyper-vigilant and anxious.
- Elise recommends limiting exposure, delegating monitoring, and doing focused actions like writing letters.
