Financial Feminist

I’ve seen it over and over again––the smartest, most capable people sabotage their financial success because of mindset traps they don’t even realize they’re falling into. In this episode, I’m walking you through 5 sneaky money mindsets that could be silently wrecking your financial goals—and more importantly, how to break free from them. These aren't just bad habits. They’re deeply-rooted beliefs that keep us playing small, procrastinating, and feeling like we’re not “cut out” for financial freedom. I’ll break down why these mental blocks are so common (especially for women and marginalized folks), how they show up in your daily life, and what to do instead. So whether you're paying off debt, saving for a big goal, or just trying to feel more in control of your money, this is the mindset reset you didn’t know you needed. Mentioned in this episode: How to Stop Emotional Spending: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/stop-emotional-spending/  The #1 Mindset Holding You Back in Life: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/142-the-1-mindset-holding-you-back-in-life/  Read transcripts, learn more about our guests and sponsors, and get more resources at: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/5-sneaky-money-mindsets/ Looking for accountability, live coaching, and deeper financial education? Check out our exclusive community! Join the $100K Club: https://herfirst100k.com/100k-pod Our favorite travel and cash-back credit cards, plus other financial resources: https://herfirst100k.com/tools Not sure where to start on your financial journey? Take our FREE money personality quiz! https://herfirst100k.com/quiz Special thanks to our sponsors: Squarespace Go to www.squarespace.com/FFPOD to save 10% off your first website or domain purchase. Rocket Money Stop wasting money on things you don’t use. Cancel your unwanted subscriptions by going to RocketMoney.com/FFPOD. Quince For your next trip, treat yourself to the luxe upgrades you deserve from Quince. Go to Quince.com/FFPOD for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Netsuite If your revenues are at least in the seven figures, download the free e-book Navigating Global Trade: 3 Insights for Leaders at NetSuite.com/FFPOD. Masterclass Get an additional 15% off any annual membership at Masterclass.com/FFPOD. Indeed Get a $75 sponsored job credit to get your jobs more visibility at Indeed.com/FFPOD. ResortPass Visit Resortpass.com and use code FFPOD to get $20 off your first ResortPass experience. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s talk about sex baby! If you've ever wondered why sex, pleasure, and intimacy often come with guilt—you're not alone. In this episode of Financial Feminist, I’m joined by Casey Tanner, AASECT certified sex therapist and author of the book “Feel It All: A Therapist's Guide to Reimagining Your Relationship with Sex.” We dive deep into how capitalism, purity culture, and gender norms are shaping not just your finances—but your sex life too. Yep––capitalism might be in your bedroom. Casey and I unpack how productivity obsession, religious trauma, and internalized shame creep into our most intimate moments. We explore how queerness, pleasure, money, and identity intersect—and how healing from societal conditioning around sex can help us build better relationships with ourselves and others. Whether you're partnered, solo, questioning, or just curious, this conversation will blow your mind and soothe your nervous system all at once. TW: Sexual assault , mention of suicide, eating disorders Casey’s links: Queer Sex Therapy’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queersextherapy/  The Expansive Group’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theexpansivegroup/  Read transcripts, learn more about our guests and sponsors, and get more resources at https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/236-is-capitalism-ruining-my-sex-life-with-queer-sex-therapist-casey-tanner/ Looking for accountability, live coaching, and deeper financial education? Check out our exclusive community! Join the $100K Club: https://herfirst100k.com/100k-pod Our favorite travel and cash-back credit cards, plus other financial resources: https://herfirst100k.com/tools Not sure where to start on your financial journey? Take our FREE money personality quiz! https://herfirst100k.com/quiz Special thanks to our sponsors: Squarespace Go to www.squarespace.com/FFPOD to save 10% off your first website or domain purchase. Rocket Money Stop wasting money on things you don’t use. Cancel your unwanted subscriptions by going to RocketMoney.com/FFPOD. Quince For your next trip, treat yourself to the luxe upgrades you deserve from Quince. Go to Quince.com/FFPOD for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Netsuite If your revenues are at least in the seven figures, download the free e-book Navigating Global Trade: 3 Insights for Leaders at NetSuite.com/FFPOD. Masterclass Get an additional 15% off any annual membership at Masterclass.com/FFPOD. Indeed Get a $75 sponsored job credit to get your jobs more visibility at Indeed.com/FFPOD. ZocDoc Visit Zocdoc.com/FFPOD to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. ResortPass Visit Resortpass.com and use code FFPOD to get $20 off your first ResortPass experience. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Class is back in session! In this special ‘Study Hall’ episode, I’m breaking down one of the biggest decisions you’ll ever make––home buying. We’ve packed this episode with some of our best conversations on renting vs. buying—including insights from Ramit Sethi, Kate Wood from NerdWallet, and Redfin’s Chief Economist Daryl Fairweather. Whether you’re trying to decide if homeownership makes sense for you, want to better understand mortgages, or need permission to not buy a house right now, this episode is your comprehensive guide to one of life’s biggest financial moves. Let’s bust some myths, talk strategy, and help you decide what’s right for your real life—not someone else’s version of success. Mentioned in this episode: What You Need to Know About Mortgages with NerdWallet’s Kate Wood: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/how-to-get-a-mortgage/  How to Live Your Rich Life with Ramit Sethi: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/rich-life-ramit-sethi/ Will the Housing Market Ever Get Better? with Daryl Fairweather: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/162-will-the-housing-market-ever-get-better-with-daryl-fairweather-redfin-chief-economist/  Read transcripts, learn more about our guests and sponsors, and get more resources at: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/235-study-hall-home-buying/ Leave a voicemail for the show: https://www.speakpipe.com/financialfeminist   Looking for accountability, live coaching, and deeper financial education? Check out our exclusive community! Join the $100K Club: https://herfirst100k.com/100k-pod Our favorite travel and cash-back credit cards, plus other financial resources: https://herfirst100k.com/tools Not sure where to start on your financial journey? Take our FREE money personality quiz! https://herfirst100k.com/quiz Special thanks to our sponsors: Squarespace Go to www.squarespace.com/FFPOD to save 10% off your first website or domain purchase. Rocket Money Stop wasting money on things you don’t use. Cancel your unwanted subscriptions by going to RocketMoney.com/FFPOD. Quince For your next trip, treat yourself to the luxe upgrades you deserve from Quince. Go to Quince.com/FFPOD for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Netsuite If your revenues are at least in the seven figures, download the free e-book Navigating Global Trade: 3 Insights for Leaders at NetSuite.com/FFPOD. Masterclass Get an additional 15% off any annual membership at Masterclass.com/FFPOD. Indeed Get a $75 sponsored job credit to get your jobs more visibility at Indeed.com/FFPOD. ResortPass Visit Resortpass.com and use code FFPOD to get $20 off your first ResortPass experience. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I know firsthand how heavy financial scarcity can feel—especially when you’re dealing with debt. It’s not just numbers on a screen; it’s fear, shame, and anxiety that can leave you frozen in place. In this episode, I’m joined by Natalia Brown, Chief Compliance and Consumer Affairs Officer at National Debt Relief, who not only brings professional expertise, but powerful lived experience growing up in Harlem and navigating financial hardship herself. We talk about the real, raw emotional toll of debt—from the societal stigma to the psychological patterns that keep us stuck. Natalia breaks down predatory lending, payday loan traps, and how to know if debt consolidation or settlement is right for you. We also dive into something so many of us feel but rarely name: financial dysmorphia. This episode is full of judgment-free, actionable advice on how to reclaim your financial power and begin again—with clarity, compassion, and a solid plan. Natalia’s links: For more information on a variety of debt topics, feel free to visit National Debt Relief’s Resource page for more information on individual debt situations: https://www.nationaldebtrelief.com/resources/ Read transcripts, learn more about our guests and sponsors, and get more resources at https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/234-financial-scarcity-debt-and-shame-how-to-start-fresh-with-natalia-brown-national-debt-relief/ Looking for accountability, live coaching, and deeper financial education? Check out our exclusive community! Join the $100K Club: https://herfirst100k.com/100k-pod Our favorite travel and cash-back credit cards, plus other financial resources: https://herfirst100k.com/tools Not sure where to start on your financial journey? Take our FREE money personality quiz! https://herfirst100k.com/quiz Special thanks to our sponsors: Squarespace Go to www.squarespace.com/FFPOD to save 10% off your first website or domain purchase. Rocket Money Stop wasting money on things you don’t use. Cancel your unwanted subscriptions by going to RocketMoney.com/FFPOD. Quince For your next trip, treat yourself to the luxe upgrades you deserve from Quince. Go to Quince.com/FFPOD for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Netsuite If your revenues are at least in the seven figures, download the free e-book Navigating Global Trade: 3 Insights for Leaders at NetSuite.com/FFPOD. Masterclass Get an additional 15% off any annual membership at Masterclass.com/FFPOD. Indeed Get a $75 sponsored job credit to get your jobs more visibility at Indeed.com/FFPOD. ResortPass Visit Resortpass.com and use code FFPOD to get $20 off your first ResortPass experience. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

JL Collins, the 'godfather of financial independence' and author of The Simple Path to Wealth, shares his wealth of knowledge on investing. He emphasizes that you don't need a finance degree to build wealth, advocating for the simplicity of index funds. JL debunks common investing myths and encourages viewers to see market dips as opportunities rather than disasters. He also discusses the importance of financial literacy, diversifying income streams, and the transformative power of consistent investing for achieving financial independence.

Dr. Martha Beck, a bestselling author and coach revered by Oprah, discusses the pervasive issue of anxiety and its impact on self-discovery. She shares insights on transforming anxiety into a guide for purpose, emphasizing self-kindness and the neuroscience behind our emotions. The conversation dives into the role of creativity, the importance of authenticity, and practical tools for moving from panic to peace. Listeners learn how small acts of self-compassion can spark significant personal transformation and fulfillment.

Listener questions spark a lively discussion on where to keep your money, tackling everything from emergency fund strategies to the impact of political climates on investments. Delve into the differences between credit unions, traditional banks, and online options, and learn how to maximize your money mindset through active investing. The complexities of credit card management post-debt relief are dissected, giving practical advice for rebuilding credit while encouraging emotional wellness. It's a treasure trove of financial wisdom!

Join Dr. Judith Joseph, a board-certified psychiatrist and author specializing in high-functioning depression, as she dives deep into the complexities of joy and mental health. Discover why so many feel burned out and how societal pressures contribute to emotional struggles. Dr. Joseph reveals her five practices to reclaim joy and emphasizes the importance of living according to personal values amidst external expectations. She also addresses the scars of scarcity trauma on well-being and the role of mindfulness in enhancing mental wellness.

If you're a woman navigating the complex world of career negotiations — whether you’re gearing up for an annual review or trying to land a new job with higher pay, you're in for a treat. In this special replay episode, Tori sits down with speaker, corporate trainer, and gendered negotiation expert Kathryn Valentine to uncover the secrets of successful salary negotiations. Kathryn's insights dispel the myths and provide actionable strategies for leveling the playing field in the corporate world so you can tackle your next negotiation with confidence. Kathryn’s Links: Kathryn’s Website 75+ Things You Can Negotiate Read transcripts, learn more about our guests and sponsors, and get more resources at https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/the-1-negotiation-mistake-women-make-with-kathryn-valentine-best-of/ Looking for accountability, live coaching, and deeper financial education? Check out our exclusive community! Join the $100K Club: https://herfirst100k.com/100k-pod Our favorite travel and cash-back credit cards, plus other financial resources: https://herfirst100k.com/tools Not sure where to start on your financial journey? Take our FREE money personality quiz! https://herfirst100k.com/quiz Special thanks to our sponsors: Squarespace Go to www.squarespace.com/FFPOD to save 10% off your first website or domain purchase. Rocket Money Stop wasting money on things you don’t use. Cancel your unwanted subscriptions by going to RocketMoney.com/FFPOD. Quince For your next trip, treat yourself to the luxe upgrades you deserve from Quince. Go to Quince.com/FFPOD for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Netsuite Download the CFO’s Guide to AI and Machine Learning at NetSuite.com/FFPOD. Masterclass Get an additional 15% off any annual membership at Masterclass.com/FFPOD. Indeed Get a $75 sponsored job credit to get your jobs more visibility at Indeed.com/FFPOD. ZocDoc Visit Zocdoc.com/FFPOD to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. ResortPass Visit Resortpass.com and use code FFPOD to get $20 off your first ResortPass experience. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s be real — periods are a huge part of life for millions of us, but we’re still taught to suffer through the pain, stay quiet about the discomfort, and not ask too many questions. In today’s episode, I'm joined by Kate Helen Downey, host of the incredible podcast CRAMPED, who is on a mission to change that. We’re getting into everything you should have been taught about your body but probably weren’t –– the truth about hormones, the reality of living with endometriosis (endo) and PCOS, why the system isn’t built for menstruating bodies, and how period pain is affecting our wallets, careers, and overall health. If you’ve ever wondered whether your pain is "normal" (hint: if it’s wrecking your day, it’s not!), or felt dismissed by doctors when you tried to get answers, this conversation will make you feel seen. We’re breaking down the phases of your hormonal cycle, what debilitating period symptoms might be telling you, and why advocating for your health — even when the system is stacked against you — is an act of radical self-care.  Kate’s Links: Website:  https://www.katehelendowney.com/  CRAMPED podcast: https://www.katehelendowney.com/cramped Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katehelendowney/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kateiscramped  Read transcripts, learn more about our guests and sponsors, and get more resources at https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/229-periods-hormones-endo-pcos-and-everything-you-need-to-know-with-kate-helen-downey/ Looking for accountability, live coaching, and deeper financial education? Check out our exclusive community! Join the $100K Club: https://herfirst100k.com/100k-pod Our favorite travel and cash-back credit cards, plus other financial resources: https://herfirst100k.com/tools Not sure where to start on your financial journey? Take our FREE money personality quiz! https://herfirst100k.com/quiz Special thanks to our sponsors: Squarespace Go to www.squarespace.com/FFPOD to save 10% off your first website or domain purchase. Rocket Money Stop wasting money on things you don’t use. Cancel your unwanted subscriptions by going to RocketMoney.com/FFPOD. Quince For your next trip, treat yourself to the luxe upgrades you deserve from Quince. Go to Quince.com/FFPOD for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Netsuite Download the CFO’s Guide to AI and Machine Learning at NetSuite.com/FFPOD. Masterclass Get an additional 15% off any annual membership at Masterclass.com/FFPOD. Indeed Get a $75 sponsored job credit to get your jobs more visibility at Indeed.com/FFPOD. ZocDoc Visit Zocdoc.com/FFPOD to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. ResortPass Visit Resortpass.com and use code FFPOD to get $20 off your first ResortPass experience. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices