The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Ep. 80: What To Do After We Mess Up (Rupture Repair!)

May 17, 2022

Mistakes in parenting are not just common; they're essential for growth. Research reveals that parents are in tune with their kids only about 30% of the time. The journey of parenting is about navigating these 'ruptures' and making heartfelt 'repairs'. Emphasizing self-compassion, the discussion focuses on how connecting with children means more than striving for perfection. Practical strategies for co-regulation and understanding attachment styles are shared, highlighting the importance of support and emotional connection.

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Intro

00:00 • 24min

Navigating Ruptures and Repairs in Parenting

23:40 • 16min

Navigating Parent-Child Connections: Embracing Rupture Repair

39:46 • 22min

Our kids don’t need us to be perfect. Not only do they not need us to be perfect, it would actually be bad for them if we were.

In fact, research shows parents are in attunement with their children about 30% of the time. 30%! That’s it!

When I teach, I often reassure parents that ⅓ of their interactions with their child are “getting it right.” About ⅓ of the time they are “getting it wrong” (whatever that even means- we all have our own, valid definitions). The rest? The remaining ⅓? Well ideally, the other ⅓ is spent in repair.

Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at: RobynGobbel.com/RuptureRepair

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