Being Human with Steve Cuss Cyd and Geoff Holsclaw: How Your Past Shapes You and Wounds Others
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May 26, 2025 Cyd and Geoff Holsclaw, co-directors of the Center for Embodied Faith, dive into how our earliest relationships mold our faith and connections. They explore attachment theory's impact on emotional landscapes, discussing secure versus insecure attachments in relatable terms. The conversation highlights coping strategies, the importance of self-awareness, and how trauma shapes current relationships. Personal journeys into fatherhood also shed light on the ongoing work required for deeper faith and understanding. Their insights emphasize self-compassion as vital for healing and connection.
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Early Attachment Shapes Identity
- Early childhood experiments with caregivers shape our expectations of self, others, and the world.
- These conclusions impact identity and relational behaviors into adulthood.
Insecure Attachment Patterns
- Insecure attachments manifest as strategies: the 'jungle' involves hypervigilance and anxiety.
- The 'desert' involves emotional avoidance and prioritizing independence over intimacy.
Anxiety in All Attachment Styles
- Both anxious and avoidant attachments involve anxiety, just expressed differently.
- Avoidant types mask anxiety, often unaware of their own distress.
