Magical Overthinkers

Overthinking About Crying

Nov 12, 2025
MJ Renshaw, a wellness educator and founder of The Being Method, dives deep into the fascinating world of crying. She shares her personal journey with emotional expression and its ties to her book, How to Cry. MJ discusses the biological basis of tears and the societal stigma surrounding them, clarifying that crying isn't manipulative but a natural human response. They explore the emotional benefits of crying, why it often emerges in conflicts, and the surprising post-cry glow. Plus, insights on how breathwork can help reconnect with our emotions.
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ANECDOTE

From Shut Down To Sudden Release

  • MJ Renshaw describes growing up labeled overly sensitive and shutting down crying after family criticism.
  • She later processed grief years after trauma and an acid experience unlocked her emotional release.
INSIGHT

Crying Reflects Nervous System State

  • Crying tendency links to nervous system state: sympathetic people suppress tears while parasympathetic people cry more easily.
  • Tears often indicate safety to feel, not weakness or manipulation.
INSIGHT

Tears As A Peace Signal

  • Emotional tears release oxytocin which promotes bonding and signals a peace gesture during conflict.
  • This 'tend-and-befriend' response is distinct from fight-or-flight and has social survival value.
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