Dr. Joan Rosenberg, a bestselling author and expert in psychology, shares powerful insights on emotional resilience and mental health. She highlights the '90-second rule,' teaching that difficult feelings can be fully experienced and will often pass within 90 seconds. The discussion emphasizes the importance of expressing authentic emotions over suppressing them, along with the power of vulnerability in seeking support. Dr. Rosenberg also tackles the emotional challenges of entrepreneurship, urging leaders to embrace their feelings for personal growth.
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insights INSIGHT
90-Second Rule
Bodily sensations associated with difficult feelings are often what we try to avoid.
These sensations dissipate within 90 seconds, allowing us to move through them.
volunteer_activism ADVICE
Handling Change and Risk
Understand that change is constant, so be flexible and adaptive.
Learn to handle unpleasant feelings effectively as part of navigating change and risk.
question_answer ANECDOTE
Dell Executive's Anger
Gay Hendricks helped Dell's number two guy by connecting his anger outbursts to sadness and disappointment.
Once the executive expressed sadness and disappointment, his communication improved, and his allergies cleared up.
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On December 10, 1996, Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, a thirty-seven-year-old Harvard-trained brain scientist, suffered a rare form of stroke in the left hemisphere of her brain. This event led to a complete deterioration of her cognitive functions within four hours, yet she alternated between the logical left brain and the intuitive right brain, experiencing euphoria and a sense of complete well-being. The book chronicles her eight-year recovery and the profound insights she gained into the brain's functioning and the potential for inner peace. Taylor's experience has been widely acclaimed, including a viral TED talk and recognition as one of TIME Magazine’s 100 Most Influential People in the World in 2008.
60 million Americans are affected by mental health issues. One in five will experience mental health issues within a given year, according to the National Institute of Mental Health.
The good news is: you don’t have to stay stuck, sad, lonely, frustrated. You don’t have to feel useless or lost. The pain of that will pass - and it may pass quicker than you think.
I’ve known Dr. Joan Rosenberg for 15 years. When I am in a rut, or I feel stagnant or stuck, I talk to her. She is a bestselling author and a captivating public speaker, an all around amazing person who is excellent at what she does.
Joan offers an essential tool and 4 step framework I think will be beneficial for your entrepreneurial mental health toolkit.
The 90-Second Rule: Bodily sensations associated with difficult feelings are often what we try to avoid. But, we can lean into them, accept that it will pass in 90 seconds or less, and then we experience them more fully and move through them.
Express Authentic Emotions. Both Dr. Rosenberg and Gay Hendricks stress that suppressing or "transmuting" emotions, such as masking sadness or disappointment with anger, can be detrimental. Gay shares that one of his clients experienced a huge breakthrough when he was able to acknowledge the source of his anger.
It takes strength to ask for help and acknowledge limitations. Success is rarely achieved alone. Even the military prioritizes assessing needs and limitations and calling for support when necessary. Embrace vulnerability and build the support systems necessary to go the distance!
Not only is Joan a brilliant psychologist, she’s a bestselling author, and a captivating public speaker. Her experience and expertise make her Mental Health Framework essential for any entrepreneur.
People are experiencing a LOT of stress right now, financial, physical, natural disasters. It’s taking a toll on mental health - including members of Mike’s family.
Mike welcomes Gay back to the podcast after a challenging year of medical issues, including broken bones.
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Joan introduces the 90-second rule: feelings are transient and dissipate within 90 seconds. It’s the physical sensation we try to avoid, not the breadth of the feeling itself.
There is a brilliant connection between the 90-second rule with Gay’s book "The Ten Second Miracle," focusing on the importance of understanding and mapping bodily sensations.
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Entrepreneurs struggle with change, control, and fear in their businesses.This is connected to risk and also presents a unique struggle with leadership.
Joan outlines four steps for an entrepreneurial mental health toolkit: 1) embracing change as a constant, 2) developing emotional flexibility, 3) improving communication skills, and 4) managing risk-taking by addressing the fear of undesired emotional outcomes.
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There is a deep connection between handling external change and internal emotional awareness.
“Alexithymia," is the difficulty in identifying and articulating emotions. How can awareness and education about alexithymia contribute to better mental health practices in workplaces?
Transmuting feelings can hinder your growth. It’s important to express authentic emotions.
You can break “trauma loops" by facing difficult feelings and acknowledging your needs and limitations. It’s GOOD to ask for help.
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