Best of Guest Expert Advice from 2024: Episode 176

Dec 20, 2024

Casey Ehrlich, a parenting coach with expertise in Pathological Demand Avoidance, shares transformative insights on nurturing children with unique needs. The discussion dives into the importance of self-compassion in parental journeys and the emotional complexity of raising neurodivergent kids. The guests reflect on embracing individual developmental timelines, the challenges of parenting anxiety, and the need for resilience. They also emphasize tuning into children's emotions and reimagining traditional approaches to parenting for a happier family dynamic.

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Intro

00:00 • 3min

Reflections on Parenting Wisdom

02:57 • 15min

Embracing Individual Developmental Timelines

18:09 • 3min

Balancing Parenting Challenges and Growth

20:49 • 27min

Navigating Parenting Anxiety and Guilt

47:21 • 2min

Embracing Authentic Parenting Amidst Judgment

49:29 • 4min

Empowering Parental Resilience and Community Engagement

53:00 • 2min

Never Enough, The Toxic Effects of Achievement Culture

Jennifer Wallace

Self-Care for Autistic People

100+ Ways to Recharge, De-Stress, and Unmask!

Megan Anna Neff

Middle School Matters

Phyllis L. Fagell

In this book, Phyllis Fagell helps parents use the middle school years as a low-stakes training ground to teach kids essential skills such as making good friend choices, negotiating conflict, regulating their own emotions, and being their own advocates. The book combines Fagell's professional and personal expertise with stories and advice from prominent psychologists, doctors, parents, educators, school professionals, and middle schoolers themselves. It covers topics including values and integrity, social skills, learning, and empowerment and resilience, providing practical strategies for parents and educators to support early adolescents[1][4][5].

Middle School Superpowers

Phyllis L. Fagell

The Adonis Complex: How to Identify, Treat and Prevent Body Obsession in Men and Boys

Roberto Olivardia

From Chaos to Connection

Stephanie Pinto

Sexism and Sensibility, Raising Empowered, Resilient Girls in the Modern World

Dr. Joanne Finkelstein

Find Your Unicorn Space

Eve Rodsky

Anxious kids, anxious parents

Lynn Lyons

Reid Wilson

Very Intentional Parenting, Awakening the Empowered Parent Within

Destini Ann Davis

Boy Mom

Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity

Ruth Whippman

The Self-Driven Child

The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives

Ned Johnson

William Stixrud

This book combines insights from clinical practice, educational coaching, and cutting-edge brain science to address the chronic stress and lack of motivation many children face. Stixrud and Johnson argue that giving children more control over their lives is crucial for their development, as it enhances their motivation, resilience, and overall well-being. The authors provide practical advice on how parents can act as consultants rather than controllers, helping children develop inner drive and intrinsic motivation through autonomy, competence, and relatedness. The book also discusses the negative effects of excessive parental control and external motivators, and offers actionable steps for parents to implement in their daily lives[2][3][5].

What Do You Say?

How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home

Ned Johnson

William Stixrud

In 'What Do You Say?', William Stixrud and Ned Johnson offer a comprehensive guide on how to communicate effectively with children. The book focuses on defining and demonstrating the basic principles of listening and speaking, and provides new ways to handle specific, thorny topics such as delivering constructive feedback, discussing technology boundaries, explaining sleep and brain function, addressing anxiety about current events, and family problem-solving. The authors emphasize the importance of treating parents as consultants rather than managers, encouraging children to make their own decisions, and maintaining a positive communication ratio to foster a supportive and resilient family environment.