Women of Impact 6 Signs Your Relationship Won’t Survive - Take the 91% Accurate Divorce Test Now | Dr. Julie Gottman PT 2
Aug 14, 2025
In this illuminating discussion, Dr. Julie Gottman, a world-renowned relationship expert, shares her knowledge on maintaining healthy partnerships. She reveals the 'Four Horsemen' that can doom relationships and offers actionable strategies to combat them. Listeners learn how the first moments of conflict can predict outcomes years down the line. Dr. Gottman emphasizes the importance of daily gratitude, small gestures, and effective communication, while sharing personal insights from her own enduring marriage.
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Four Horsemen Predict Relationship Damage
- The Four Horsemen (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) predict relational decline when used frequently.
- Contempt is the most toxic and can erode the listener's immune system over time.
Use Six Questions To Resolve Gridlock
- Use the six-question intervention when you hit gridlock and trade roles after one person answers.
- Focus on the speaker's internal history and values to build compassion and enable compromise.
Important-Word Gridlock Example
- Lisa and Tom once both declared an issue 'important' and clashed over staying versus traveling.
- Discovering underlying needs (emotional soothing vs identity) helped them avoid lasting contempt.