We’re back for Part 2 of our powerful conversation with world-renowned relationship expert Dr. Julie Gottman. If you’ve ever felt stuck in repetitive conflict, uncertain if your partner will ever change, or wondered what science actually says about lasting love—this episode is your essential roadmap.
Lisa and Dr. Julie dig deep into the anatomy of relational disaster versus mastery—naming the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, sharing the six breakthrough questions couples need to ask in gridlock, and breaking down how the first three minutes of a fight can predict your relationship’s future six years out. Plus, Dr. Julie shares practical rituals that power her own 38-year marriage, the biggest mistakes even therapists make, and how to reconnect from even the deepest moments of distance. This episode is packed with science, lived wisdom, and hope for every relationship stage.
SHOWNOTES
38:20 The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, Stonewalling
47:09 The Power of Compassion in Conflict
54:45 The Importance of Daily Gratitude & Small Gestures
61:45 High-Risk Moments for Cheating & How to Protect Your Marriage
71:05 How to Heal After Regrettable Incidents
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