Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon “I Think I’ve Outgrown My Relationship!”
Dec 2, 2025
The discussion dives into the meaning behind feeling like you've outgrown your relationship. It addresses disengagement and personal growth, exploring how changing dynamics can trigger disconnection. Internal struggles like relational imposter syndrome and mistrust of self are discussed, along with partner-focused fears of abandonment and jealousy. Practical exercises are shared to help clarify needs and foster better communication. The insights aim to cultivate a deeper understanding of relationship evolution.
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Two Ways People 'Outgrow' Relationships
- People mean two main things when they say they've outgrown a relationship: disengagement or evolving into a different person.
- These categories overlap and change can create both boredom and mismatch simultaneously.
Growth Can Trigger A Threat Response
- A personal shift can trigger a relational feedback loop where your excitement lands as threat for your partner.
- Their defensive fight/flight/freeze then confirms both partners' fears and widens the distance.
Update Your Relationship's Terms
- Ask yourself what you need from your partner after your changes and whether you need them to grow or simply witness you.
- Consider updating your relationship's 'terms of service' instead of assuming you must leave.