457: When Leadership Isn’t Right, with Bonni Stachowiak
Mar 2, 2020
Bonni Stachowiak tackles the intricate dance of feedback within professional communication. She provides insights on tailoring communication styles, especially for women, to create supportive environments. The difference between leadership and management is explored, shedding light on their unique roles in driving organizational change. Additionally, listeners get tips on discerning quality leadership programs and the importance of mentorship. Lastly, Bonni reveals her approach to selecting engaging podcast guests, focusing on content relevance over popularity.
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volunteer_activism ADVICE
Seek Specific Feedback
Ask for specific feedback to improve your approach.
Reflect on your feedback style and aim to be more visionary.
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Listen First, Speak Later
Count how many people speak before offering feedback.
Change behavior by listening to other's ideas first.
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Balance Feedback
Vary feedback by offering affirmation and passion.
Reserve critical feedback for rare occasions.
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In 'The Advice Trap', Michael Bungay Stanier builds on the principles of his previous book, 'The Coaching Habit', to help leaders and consultants avoid the pitfalls of premature and unsolicited advice-giving. The book emphasizes the importance of taming the 'Advice Monster' within, which is driven by the beliefs that one must have the answer, be responsible for everything, and stay in control. By staying curious longer and rushing into advice-giving more slowly, leaders can foster a more engaged team, promote organizational change, and create a curiosity-driven company culture. The book provides practical tools and strategies for effective coaching, including the use of probing questions, mindfulness, and humility[2][4][5].
Bonni Stachowiak: Teaching in Higher Ed
Bonni Stachowiak is the host of the Teaching in Higher Ed podcast, a professor of business and management at Vanguard University, and my life partner. Prior to her academic career, Bonni was a human resources consultant and executive officer for a publicly traded company. She is the author of The Productive Online and Offline Professor: A Practical Guide*.
Listener Questions
Chris asked for ideas on changing behavior after hearing that his questions/challenges were being perceived as aggressive.
Steve wanted to know if there are times when you shouldn’t lead.
Colin asked for advice on supporting a colleague who is looking into leadership certificate programs.
Jill wondered how I select guests for the show.
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Leadership vs. Management (The Look & Sound of Leadership)
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