Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman Shan Boodram & The Marriage Pact
Aug 22, 2023
Shan Boodram, a certified sexologist and two-time best-selling author, dives into the intriguing concept of marriage pacts, revealing how being friends first can enhance romantic connections. She discusses the shifting dynamics of relationships and the pressure of societal timelines around marriage. The conversation also touches on redefining 'settling' in love, the role of mindfulness in cultivating deeper connections, and the challenges of modern dating, encouraging a thoughtful approach to lasting partnerships.
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Understanding Marriage Pacts
- A marriage pact is a pre-agreed timeline where two singles commit to trying a relationship by a set date.
- About 37% of couples start as friends first, making the friendship-to-romance path a key relationship trend.
Attraction Powers Relationships
- Attraction is one of four pillars of relationships, acting as the "rocket" that propels it forward.
- Without attraction, a relationship resembles just a friendship stool, making romance challenging to build.
Attraction Drives Relationship Timing
- If attraction was unimportant, couples would have already been together instead of delaying.
- The reason for postponing a relationship often means attraction remains crucial and unresolved later.