Love Life With Matthew Hussey The Real Reason You’re Falling for the Wrong People [Feat. André Duqum] | Matt Monday
Dec 29, 2025
Explore how familiar patterns can lead us to the wrong partners, as learned behaviors mimic security despite causing harm. Discover the importance of curiosity in breaking free from past limitations and embracing healthier relationship possibilities. Unpack how trust issues can create walls, resulting in transactional interactions. Hear personal stories of vulnerability and healing that showcase the power of compassionate responses in transforming self-beliefs. Learn why self-compassion is essential for healthier dating and genuine connections.
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Familiarity Feels Like Home
- We prefer what feels familiar, not what makes us happy, so we seek relationships that match our 'tank' experience.
- That learned normal can be unhealthy but still feels like reality until we intentionally look elsewhere.
Learned Patterns Drive Choices
- Early life conditioning trains us to repeat specific behaviors even when they're harmful.
- Like a dolphin trained in a tank, we carry learned survival strategies into the wider world without realising the danger.
Growing Up Guarded Created A Wall
- Matthew describes growing up guarded, expecting agendas and difficulty trusting others.
- That protection led him to create walls and transactional relationships that reproduced his fear of being hurt.