The SelfWork Podcast 342 SelfWork: Five Ways of Dealing with Defensiveness, Enmeshment Dynamics, and Roles Vs Relationships: Your Questions My Answers
Jun 2, 2023
Dive into a lively discussion on navigating enmeshment and family dynamics. Discover five strategies to handle defensiveness when addressing past issues with parents. The speaker emphasizes the difference between roles and genuine relationships. Listeners also learn the importance of processing emotions for healing. Plus, get the latest updates on exciting resources and upcoming projects that can enhance your self-work journey!
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How Enmeshment Stunts Adult Development
- Enmeshment pulls a child into serving a parent's emotional needs, which stunts independent development.
- That dynamic breeds self-doubt and fewer chances to practice decision-making, producing adult immaturity and shame.
Name The Messages You Still Replay
- Do explore and name the enmeshment messages you still replay in your head to change their power over you.
- Do seek therapy or resources that specifically address enmeshment rather than dismissing it as 'past' because understanding matters.
Tell Parents You're Creating Space
- Do tell enmeshed parents your plan to create space using a calm conversation, letter, or email so they know your intention.
- Try setting specific requests like talking less often while explaining you need room to make independent decisions.
