Women of Impact The Science of Lust: What Makes Love Last (or Crash) | Dr. Tara Swart PT 2 (Fan Fav)
Nov 11, 2025
Dr. Tara Swart, a neuroscientist and author focused on resilience and relationships, explores the science behind love and lust. She reveals how oxytocin impacts trust and sexual satisfaction, and why emotional regulation is crucial after breakups. Surprising insights include how couples that stress together may bond stronger, and the intriguing effects of maternal emotions on baby development. Tara also discusses the microbiome's role in relationships and the importance of self-reflection in attracting the right partner.
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Psychological Safety Explains Obsessive Behaviors
- Psychological safety drives checking and stalking behaviors in different ways depending on whether trust is uncertain or a relationship has ended.
- Temporary dysregulated behavior after a breakup is normal but must be limited or it can spiral into severe consequences.
Use Tools And Tribe To Regulate Emotions
- Build emotional regulation through journaling, therapy, and introspection to manage breakup impulses.
- Surround yourself with friends who give the right advice and help you move forward rather than enable relapse.
Oxytocin Is Multifaceted, Not Just 'Bonding'
- Oxytocin underlies bonding, trust, orgasm, childbirth and breastfeeding but acts differently across brain pathways.
- Women are likelier to have better orgasms in trusting relationships because oxytocin supports bonding and safety.
