#435: Mastering Communication & Conflict: Skills That Will Change Your Relationship & Life with Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt

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Feb 10, 2025

In this enlightening discussion, Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, renowned couple's therapists and authors of multiple bestselling books, delve into the art of communication in relationships. They introduce the Imago Dialogue, emphasizing how safety and curiosity can transform listening into understanding. Tips on resolving conflicts are shared, alongside powerful anecdotes and the significance of asking for permission before important conversations. Their insights bridge gaps in relationships and ignites a passion for connection in our divided world.

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INSIGHT

Difference Is A Source Of Growth

People bring different, valid perspectives shaped by life and culture rather than a single absolute truth.
Sharing and listening to multiple views enlarges understanding and creates wiser joint perspectives.

ANECDOTE

Early Dates Sparked Their Dialogue Practice

Harville and Helen argued on early dates about a play and an elegant restaurant choice that each disliked.
That conflict prompted them to try structured turn-taking which calmed reactivity and began their dialogue practice.

INSIGHT

Conflict Reflects Communication Patterns

Many couple problems are symptoms of how they speak to each other, not the surface issue itself.
Moving from objection to difference toward curiosity produces collaboration and new relational solutions.

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Effective communication is the foundation of every strong relationship, yet so many of us struggle to truly be heard and understood. Renowned relationship experts and authors Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt return to share their groundbreaking insights on how dialogue can transform the way we connect. Drawing from their latest book, How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: The Practice of Safe Conversations, they break down the power of Imago Dialogue, the role of safety in communication, and why curiosity is the key to bridging differences. From deepening intimacy in romantic relationships to fostering understanding in a divided world, this conversation is packed with powerful tools to help you listen, connect, and create lasting change in the way you relate to others. Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy and a social movement called Safe Conversations. Internationally respected as couple's therapists, educators, speakers, activists, and New York Times bestselling authors, their 10 books, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, have sold more than 4 million copies. Harville appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! Helen was installed in the Women’s Hall of Fame and the Smithsonian Institute. They have six children and eight grandchildren. —Harville & Helen’s Previous Episode: https://markgroves.com/episode/the-couple-who-changed-how-i-relate-lessons-from-the-godparents-of-love/ —Harville & Helen’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/harvilleandhelen/ —Harville & Helen’s Website: https://harvilleandhelen.com/ —Harville & Helen’s Website | Safe Conversations: https://quantumconnections.com —Harville & Helen’s Website | Imago Relationship: https://imagorelationships.org/ —Harville & Helen’s Book: How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: https://harvilleandhelen.com/books/how-to-talk-with-anyone-about-anything/ Resources: — Deepen your connections and spark meaningful conversations with the Create The Love card deck — designed to inspire self-reflection, vulnerability, and deeper intimacy in your relationships. https://createthelove.com/getcards —Ready to transform your relationships? Download The Relationship Toolkit for free and learn the 5 essential skills to thrive in love and life! https://go.markgroves.com/relationship-toolkit-podcast —Ready to stop chasing emotionally unavailable people? Download your free guide to break the cycle and call in the relationship you crave: https://go.markgroves.com/unavailable-people-opt-in-podcast —Learn the connection between Attachment Styles, how it affects the Nervous System, AND how you can heal it: .https://go.markgroves.com/nervous-system-opt-in-podcast If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com This episode is sponsored by: —Cozy Earth: Use code MARK for 40% off sitewide at http://www.cozyearth.com —IIN: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at http://bit.ly/MARKIIN —Mighty Networks: Go to http://www.markgroves.com/mightynetworks to learn how you can create your own community! Contact us at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello!

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