Thomas Curran: Perfectionism: The Power Of Good Enough In A World That Always Wants More
Nov 1, 2023
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Thomas Curran, world-leading expert on perfectionism, discusses the concept of perfectionism and its effects on workplace performance. They explore different types of perfectionism, the paradox of perfectionism, and the importance of recognizing 'good enough'. The chapter emphasizes the importance of prioritizing well-being and finding the balance between hard work and perfectionism.
Perfectionism arises from a sense of lack and the belief that we are not good enough or perfect enough, leading to a relentless pursuit of projecting an impeccable image to the world.
There are three primary types of perfectionism: self-oriented, other-oriented, and socially prescribed, each with its own consequences and impact on mental health, workplace culture, and personal relationships.
Deep dives
Understanding Perfectionism: The Need to Overcome Deficits
Perfectionism stems from a sense of lack and deficiency within ourselves. It begins with the belief that we are not good enough or perfect enough. Perfectionists strive to hide, disguise, or repair what they perceive as their imperfect selves. This pursuit of perfection is driven by the desire to project an impeccable image to the world. This includes maintaining high standards and presenting flawless performances and appearances. However, this relentless quest for perfection is exhausting and does not necessarily lead to better results.
Different Types of Perfectionism: Self-Oriented, Other-Oriented, and Socially Prescribed
There are three primary types of perfectionism: self-oriented, other-oriented, and socially prescribed. Self-oriented perfectionism is driven by an intense need to be perfect and is often accompanied by self-critical tendencies. This type of perfectionism can be influenced by both genetic factors and environmental influences. Other-oriented perfectionism involves projecting high expectations onto others and can lead to interpersonal conflicts and dissatisfaction. Lastly, socially prescribed perfectionism arises from external pressures and expectations, causing individuals to feel constantly watched and judged. This form of perfectionism is strongly linked to mental health issues.
The Impact of Perfectionism on Work and Relationships
Perfectionism can have negative effects in the workplace and personal relationships. In the workplace, perfectionistic tendencies can create a culture of fear and micromanagement, stifling creativity and innovation. Perfectionists often struggle with delegation and struggle to allow their employees to make mistakes, leading to decreased motivation and productivity. In personal relationships, perfectionism can result in high expectations and constant judgment of others, leading to tension and dissatisfaction. Moreover, perfectionists' intense fear of failure and self-criticism can prevent them from seeking help or accepting support when needed.
Coping Strategies for Perfectionism
There are strategies individuals can employ to cope with perfectionism. It is crucial to recognize that the fear and consequences of imperfection are often exaggerated in our minds. Taking courageous steps, such as pushing oneself out of the comfort zone and being vulnerable to potential failure, can help dispel these exaggerated fears. Practicing self-compassion is also important, treating oneself kindly when setbacks occur and understanding that mistakes are a natural part of life. It is also helpful to adopt a more balanced perspective, acknowledging that perfection is unattainable and that good enough is often sufficient for achieving success.
When did ''good enough'' become the same as ''perfect''? Why does society increasingly promote ideals that are hard to achieve? And what does perfectionism mean?
Thomas Curran is a Professor at the London School of Economics. He is the world-leading expert on perfectionism. In 2023 he published his debut book, ‘The Perfection Trap.’ We will discuss his interesting book and much more!
The production team on this episode were PLAN-B’s Nikolai Ovenberg and Niklas Figenschau Johansen. Background research was done by Sigurd Brekke.