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138: Most of what you know about attachment is probably wrong

Jun 6, 2021
Explore the intriguing misconceptions surrounding attachment theory and its historical roots from post-World War II. Learn how early angst over parent-child attachment may stem from flawed research. The discussion highlights the role of diverse caregivers and challenges traditional views, emphasizing the importance of secure attachments in all relationships. Discover insights on the resilience of children's development, debunking the myth that early experiences dictate future well-being. A fresh perspective on parenting strategies based on solid research awaits!
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Secure Attachment Reduces Crying

  • Children who feel truly loved cry less because they trust a caregiver will come when needed.
  • Responsive parenting reduces anxious crying, refuting the idea children cry for manipulation.
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Misunderstood Separation Effects

  • Early attachment theories conflated all separations, from brief to extreme, causing confusion.
  • Abuse and adversity were mixed with separation effects, overstating harm from brief separations.
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Multiple Caregivers Build Attachment

  • Babies form multiple attachments securely, not just a single 'monotropy' figure.
  • Primary caregiver need not be the mother constantly present; many caregivers contribute to security.
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