122: Are You Attached or Actually Connected? How To Avoid the Dating Trap You Don’t See Coming

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Feb 7, 2025

Feeling anxious over someone's mixed signals? It might be attachment, not connection. Discover how fear and the need for validation skew your dating life. Learn the power of emotional safety and genuine interactions. Find out how to recognize red flags and shift from obsession to self-trust. With actionable tips for fostering real connections, you can reclaim your peace and date from a place of self-worth. Break free from unhealthy patterns and embrace consistency over intensity in your relationships.

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Attachment vs. Connection

Attachment is rooted in fear and the need for validation.
Connection thrives on authenticity and emotional safety.

INSIGHT

Hypervigilance and Trauma

Early relational trauma can lead to hypervigilance in relationships.
This hypervigilance manifests as overanalyzing and clinging.

ADVICE

Overcoming Obsession

Obsession stems from craving dopamine released by another's attention.
Ask yourself what need you're trying to fill and meet it yourself.

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Ever found yourself obsessing over someone who’s hot and cold, questioning every text, and feeling anxious when they pull away? That’s not connection—it’s attachment. In this episode Sabrina breaks down the key differences between attachment and genuine connection in dating.

You’ll learn why attachment is rooted in fear and the need for validation, while real connection thrives on authenticity and emotional safety. Discover how inconsistent communication triggers dopamine-driven obsession, and why the people who leave you spiraling aren’t the ones you’re truly connected to.

Sabrina shares actionable strategies to shift from anxious attachment to grounded self-trust. Instead of overanalyzing or chasing closure, you’ll learn how to self-soothe, focus on your own needs, and build connections based on consistency—not intensity.

Press play to reclaim your peace, recognize the red flags of attachment, and start dating from a place of self-worth. This episode is your guide to breaking free from the cycle of obsession and finding real, lasting connection.

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