EP 441: Rules, Habits, and Opening Doors with Charlie Gilkey
Aug 24, 2023
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Charlie Gilkey, author of Team Habits, discusses the importance of explicit rules, understanding social dynamics, and improving team habits to create a sense of belonging and high performance. They also mention their upcoming series featuring Charlie and his book, 'Team Habits: How Small Actions Lead to Extraordinary Results'.
Clear, explicit rules provide predictability and a framework for behavior, while the presence of implied rules creates anxiety and fear of unknowingly violating social expectations.
Recognizing and challenging unspoken agreements (workways) in workplaces, influenced by patriarchal white supremacy norms, can lead to more inclusive and effective work environments through the activation of team habits.
Deep dives
The Importance of Explicit Rules and Anxiety of Implied Rules
The podcast episode explores the speaker's affinity for clear, explicit rules and discomfort with implied rules. Explicit rules provide a sense of predictability and a framework for behavior. However, the presence of implied rules creates anxiety and a fear of unknowingly violating social expectations. The speaker discusses the impact of these rules on personal experiences and the feeling of being locked out when unaware of implied rules. The episode highlights the distinction between etiquette and pop-up rules, with the latter being explicit rules that ensure everyone is on the same page. Pop-up rules help accommodate difference and organize gatherings or workspaces.
Unspoken Agreements in Workplaces and the Concept of Workways
The episode delves into the concept of unspoken agreements in workplaces, referred to as workways. Workways are based on hierarchy and expected behavior according to one's role and position. These workways are often influenced by patriarchal white supremacy norms, leading to biases and exclusions. Charlie Gilky, the guest, introduces the idea of team habits to activate team power and improve work environments. Focusing on team habits recognizes the importance of relationships and creates space for empathy, teamwork, and partnerships. By making workways explicit and consciously examining them, teams have the opportunity to challenge and change the status quo for a more inclusive and effective workplace.
The Power of Team Habits and Improving Relationships
The episode discusses the power of team habits in improving team dynamics and performance. Team habits shift the focus from individual power dynamics to the collaborative and relational power within a team. By fostering a sense of belonging, rapport, and trust, teams create the foundation for optimal performance and a positive work experience. Improved team habits also allow for the acknowledgment and appreciation of individual team members as human beings. Emphasizing the significance of both personal and professional relationships, the episode highlights the value of changing our relationship with work and recognizing the potential of team habits to create positive change.
There are rules you know about—and rules you don't. Some rules are written down—and other rules are "just the way things are." And there are rules that make things clear to everyone—and rules that exclude through their lack of clarity.
Charlie Gilkey is on a mission to bring those unclear rules and unspoken agreements out in the open and improve the way we work in the process. His new book, Team Habits: How Small Changes Lead to Extraordinary Results, is both a treatise on better work and a detailed manual for achieving it.
In this episode, I talk with Charlie about how what seems obvious often isn't—and how that negatively impacts our work environments. We also talk about how to start changing things for the better.
This episode is one part of my longer conversation with Charlie! You'll hear more from him in my upcoming series, Strange New Work. Coming in September!
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