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3279: Getting What We Want Isn’t What We Really Want by David Cain of Raptitude on Finding True Happiness

Aug 9, 2024

In this discussion, David Cain, a thought leader on desire and true happiness, examines the paradox of wanting and getting. He shares fascinating insights about how our cravings often lead to unhappiness, using an illustrative case study of a motel owner observing vacationers. Cain emphasizes that fulfillment does not equal happiness, encouraging mindfulness practices like meditation to better understand our needs versus wants. His reflections offer a deeper look into finding genuine peace and contentment amidst life's ups and downs.

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Chasing desires like dining out often leads to disappointment, revealing that true happiness stems from understanding and managing those desires.

Human suffering persists whether desires are fulfilled or not, highlighting the importance of practicing mindfulness to achieve a deeper sense of contentment.

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The Illusion of Fulfillment

Many people chase desires like dining out or vacations, believing they will bring happiness, yet the experience often falls short of expectations. This disillusionment becomes apparent when one realizes that extraordinary moments frequently give way to mundane complications and frustrations. For instance, a seemingly perfect meal is often marred by service delays or the anxiety of being overlooked. Ultimately, the pursuit of what we think we want can lead to unsatisfactory experiences that leave us questioning the true value of our desires.

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Intro

2min

The Illusion of Desire: Finding True Satisfaction

7min

Finding True Ease Through Understanding Our Wants

2min

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Episode 3279:

David Cain explores the paradox of desire, illustrating how our cravings for experiences, like dining out or vacationing, often lead to disappointment rather than the joy we anticipate. He reflects on the Buddhist teaching that true happiness comes not from fulfilling desires but from understanding and managing them.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.raptitude.com/2016/05/what-we-want/

Quotes to ponder:

"The ease itself we can find much more readily by understanding our wants rather than scrambling to relieve them."

"Getting what you want leads to the same problems as not getting what you want."

"We suffer whether we get the thing or not. If we don’t get it, we suffer the loss. If we do get it, we still suffer because we know we will lose it."

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