Jay Stringer, Mental Health Counselor and author, discusses sexual brokenness and how it reveals our path to healing. They delve into childhood experiences, confronting unwanted behavior, detachment and connection in sexuality.
Understanding the reasons behind our unwanted sexual behavior can reveal past harm and guide us towards healing and transformation.
Viewing our sexuality as a gift from God, embracing it with a focus on connection, intimacy, and wholeness.
Deep dives
Understanding the Connection Between Sexual Brokenness and Healing
In this episode, Jay Stringer discusses his book 'Unwanted' and explores how sexual brokenness can actually be a doorway to healing. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the unique reasons behind our unwanted sexual behavior, as they reveal the location of past harm and current roadblocks in our lives. Stringer invites listeners to engage with their sexual struggles, ask probing questions, and connect the dots between their brokenness and deeper emotional issues. By doing this introspective work, individuals can embark on a transformative journey towards healing and renewed sexual health.
Redefining Our View of Sexuality and Faith
Stringer challenges the common perception that our sexuality is an impediment to knowing God. He asserts that God is the creator of our sexuality and that it should be embraced and viewed as a gift. Stringer encourages individuals to see their sexual desires as an avenue for genuine connection, intimacy, and wholeness, rather than as something to be ashamed of or buried. By redefining our understanding of sexuality and faith, we can tap into the fullness and beauty of God's design for our sexual selves.
Seeing Through Sexual Behaviors and Finding the Root Causes
The traditional approach of suppressing or fighting against unwanted sexual behaviors is questioned in this episode. Stringer suggests that instead of focusing solely on the outward action, individuals should see through their behaviors and seek to understand the driving factors behind them. By identifying the unique drivers of our unwanted sexual behavior, such as past trauma, shame, and unmet needs, we gain essential insights that can fuel the wider work of healing and transformation. This process allows us to change the narrative, reframe our sexual mindset, and ultimately experience greater freedom.
We talk to Jay Stringer, Mental Health Counselor and author of the new book Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing. We talk to Jay about his story and how he got into counseling. We also talk to him about how our sexual failures are roadmaps into our past harm, and how God views our sexuality.