Tell Me Something True with Laura McKowen Veronica Valli on The Promise of Emotional Sobriety for TMST’s 1st Birthday
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Jun 23, 2022 
Veronica Valli, a therapist, sobriety coach, and author, shares her insights on emotional sobriety. She explains how this concept goes beyond mere abstinence from substances, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and personal growth. Veronica discusses the biological basis of emotions and how familiar patterns can hinder progress in relationships. She highlights the significance of setting healthy boundaries to foster meaningful connections, reminding listeners that happiness begins from within. Her genuine encouragement offers hope for a more integrated and fulfilling life.
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Taking Things Personally Is Unsobriety
- Emotional unsobriety is taking everything personally and feeling extreme sensitivity.
- This stems from a self-centered perspective where all actions are seen as about "me."
Shame Fuels Taking Things Personally
- Taking things personally often arises from childhood lacking role models for boundaries.
- It's deeply tied to shame and the belief that something is fundamentally wrong with oneself.
Shift in Perception Example
- Veronica shared how she no longer reacted with punishment when her husband canceled plans last minute.
- She experienced a shift in perception where cancellations were not personal attacks.
