I Wish You Knew Why Do I Feel Unlovable No Matter How Hard I Try?
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Jun 20, 2025 Emily Humpert, known for her candid discussions on attachment issues, joins host Adam Lane Smith to explore emotional intimacy and the struggles of feeling unlovable. They dive into how perfectionism and shame can damage relationships, the difference between emotional safety and intimacy, and the importance of vulnerability. Additionally, they discuss the role of vasopressin in bonding, and the healing potential of emotional intimacy. This enlightening conversation offers hope and practical insights for those navigating the complex world of attachment.
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Emily's Gradual Openness to Friends
- Emily shared how she gradually opened up to friends by setting 30-minute hangout limits and expressing her struggles openly.
- This approach empowered her to reconnect without overwhelm or fear of long commitments.
Positive Feedback Fuels Connection
- Positive responses from trusted people trigger brain chemicals like oxytocin and vasopressin, reducing stress.
- This biochemical feedback encourages deeper emotional connection and repeated vulnerability.
Share Shame with Trusted Allies
- Write down your areas of shame and share them with two trusted level-four people.
- Seek their acceptance and discuss what adjustments support the relationship without judgment.